The Book
The Selfish Year
The Power of Putting Yourself First.
A permission slip soaked in gasoline.
A manifesto. A reckoning. A rallying cry.
For every woman who’s ever dimmed her fire to keep the peace.
The Book
The Power of Putting Yourself First.
A permission slip soaked in gasoline.
A manifesto. A reckoning. A rallying cry.
For every woman who’s ever dimmed her fire to keep the peace.
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The Selfish Year isn’t a pep talk or a Pinterest-worthy self-help book. It’s a permission slip soaked in gasoline.
Valerie Jones — creator of The Selfish Woman movement and host of The Selfish Woman podcast — cracked her life wide open by choosing one radical act: putting herself first. What followed was a year of unraveling, unbecoming, and rebuilding from the ashes up. This is her story, but it’s also yours.
This isn’t a how-to. It’s a manifesto. A reckoning. A rallying cry for every woman who’s ever dimmed her fire to keep the peace.
Told with unflinching honesty, fierce humor, and emotional precision, this book shows what happens when a woman decides to burn the rulebook, stop explaining, and live by her own design.
Alongside her story, she shares selfish strategies, bold truths, and invitations to help you rebuild your life from desire, not duty, and finally live on your own terms.
Whether you’re stuck in codependent patterns, people-pleasing, or just tired of pretending you’re fine, The Selfish Year will meet you there — with honesty, heat, and a roadmap home.
Through blistering honesty, no-BS insights, and moments that punch you in the gut (and then pour you a glass of wine), The Selfish Year is a permission slip and a mirror, a revolution and a return, and a love letter to the woman you were always meant to become.
From the field
“Valerie Jones is one of my favorite women to talk to about healing after divorce, and this book is no different. It’s like talking to a girlfriend about moving through the pain — and rewards — of coming back to Self. If you’ve ever wondered what it might be like to finally put yourself first, this book is your guide and Val is your champion.”
“The Selfish Year is an insightful roadmap for women who are ready to reclaim their voice and prioritize themselves. Valerie Jones brings honesty, vulnerability, and hard-earned wisdom to a conversation so many women are afraid to have.”
From readers
“Valerie is a beautiful writer and has a way of portraying her struggles with both a lyricism and relatability that makes you feel both seen and understood. I picked this up intending to read it over a week or two, but couldn’t put it down. I highly recommend this to all women at midlife who yearn to stop self-abandoning, reclaim their true selves, and create the life they were truly meant for.”
“The examples feel real, the tone is human, and the results sneak up on you. By chapter three I’d already said ‘no’ to a low-value commitment and ‘yes’ to something that actually lights me up.”
“I am looking to align myself with my highest good and become the person I’ve been aching to be. Val’s advice is kind, not nice, and just the kick in the pants I need on my healing journey. Knowing that I’m not alone in my struggles is worth so, so much.”
Read it in the bathtub.
Read it at 2 a.m. with mascara on your pillow.
Read it when you’re staring in the mirror
wondering where the hell you went.
Warning
Side effects may include clarity, confidence, and walking away from everything that drains the life out of you.
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