Her Story
I got married at nineteen.
Twenty-four years and three kids later, that marriage ended.
Naturally, I responded by getting married again.
Because apparently I enjoy learning lessons the hard way.
I’ve moved more than thirty times. I’ve lived in Kansas City, Phoenix, Vancouver, Rome, Florence, and Valencia.
I’ve been an interior designer, fitness instructor, commercial real estate professional, entrepreneur, author, speaker, investor, and host of The Selfish Woman Podcast.
I’ve built beautiful lives. I’ve built the wrong lives. I’ve built lives that looked perfect on paper and felt completely wrong from the inside.
And I’ve become surprisingly good at knowing the difference.
At one point I was carrying six figures of debt. Today I’m debt-free.
At one point I thought starting over at fifty would be terrifying. It turns out staying the same was far scarier.
I got married in Rome. The wedding was spectacular. The marriage? Mixed reviews.
I spent six months restoring a historic apartment in Valencia. Every tile, every light fixture, every piece of furniture was chosen with obsessive attention to detail.
Then I walked away from it.
The apartment. The marriage. The life I thought I wanted.
Which was, admittedly, an expensive way to learn a lesson.
But some lessons are worth the price.
People often ask how I became interested in this work. The answer is simple.
I’ve spent my life standing at the edge of one version of myself and deciding whether or not to jump.
Sometimes I jumped. Sometimes I waited too long. But eventually I learned something that changed everything:
The life that’s meant for you usually sits on the other side of a decision you’re afraid to make.
That realization became a book. A podcast. A body of work. A community. And eventually, a movement.
For years, I helped women leave, heal, rebuild, and trust themselves.
And then I became obsessed with a different question.